Hi Marisa

I just joined and my husband was just diagnosed with diabetes as well. I joined to sort of force myself to start learning more about alternative cooking options and to think outside the box.

I really recommend reading and learning as much as you can about diabetes to really understand *why* the carb and sugar counts are important. Specifically, what I find helpful is the Glycemic Load. This post has a lot of good info on the Glycemic Index and Load: http://www.nutritiondata.com/topics/glycemic-index

I intend to use this info to think through the substitutes, but, like you, I want the food to be as yummy for him as it would be if prepared traditionally. if worse comes to worse, I may make a mini-dessert for him to have with a low carb dinner that would balance the glycemic load of the entire meal.

I am learning that diabetes management and cooking is all about balance. If the dessert is served on it's own, more modifications will be necessary than if it is served with a meal, usually. You might also be able to modify several ingredients to lower the overall glycemic load of the dish.

Best of wishes in your endeavor and long life and good health to your father in law.